My journey out of the darkness of depression. How I changed from not just surviving but thriving.
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Monday, March 14, 2011
Adding to the book list
I struggled with learning to read. In high school I finally took a 'free reading' class where I discovered two things. I read slowly and I don't like reading what my mother was always telling me I should read. I read books like Black Like Me, The Little Prince, Bellevue is a State of Mind, I Never Promised You a Rose Garden and a huge list of other books that I think my mother would add to the ban list. I also discovered Non-Fiction. I found INPUT to the N'th degree. I loved it. When I was pregnant I was one of those lucky souls with morning, noon, and night sickness and used reading a good story to help keep my mind focused on something besides throwing up. I have done my own research on hundreds of topics I am curious about. Then I hit PTSD at a severe level and Dissociative Identity Disorder. My reading became a huge challenge because the only ones writing about it seemed to be psychiatrist and counselors. So when I do come across a book on it, I put it on my must read list. Sometimes this is a tactical error. I found the book Mother Had a Secret by Tiffany Fletcher. Tiffany is the daughter of a woman with multiple personalities. She wrote it from her perspective as a child living with a mother that she really didn't know who she should would be facing from day to day. If I had any idea what was in the book, I would have waited until a vacation or a weekend. I ended up taking a day off of work to read this book. I read. I cried. I read some more. I cried while I read. I couldn't help thinking about what would my kids write if they wrote a book about me. If you are a person that wants to know how difficult living with PTSD and DID can be, this would be the book for you. On the other hand, if you are a multiple or PTSD at a severe level, I would wrap this book in caution tape. I am adding it to my book list because it has a unique perspective that I have never found before. Read at your own risk. I am now going back and reading sections again with a calmer frame of mind. There are some really interesting points. Do keep the caution in mind.
At times we seem destined to hurt OURSELVES by reopening old wounds. Be kind to yourself, Ruth, You deserve to be happy.
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Thanks mulderfan. I also remind myself that to clean out some wounds reopening is necessary to get rid of the poisonous thoughts. I love the Serenity prayer because it is knowing the difference. Sometime we have something that needs to be out in the open. I think at some level this is what this book did for me. It let me exam one of the reasons I feel bad about myself. The affect I had on my children has haunted me. Fortunately, several of my children have reassured me that I did do the best I knew how and they felt that I loved them. They have made a big difference in my life.
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