I love quotes from Einstein. One of his more intriguing quotes is, "What does a fish know about the water in which it swims all its life?"
I realized that being raised in abuse I didn't know anything else. I was in counseling before I learned that I had rights as a human being that actually apply to me. I also figured that everyone has bad things in their life. You just get used to it. What I got used to as a child was that I had no value or worth. I had such a low expectation from life and I didn't know there was such thing as thriving. On the other hand, I have a deep appreciation for small kindnesses like someone opening a door for me, a beautiful sunset, or laughter of a child. Life offers many twist and turns. Until I was told I was wet, I really didn't understand for most of my life.
I had a counselor ask me why, as a child, I couldn't see that my family dynamic was dysfunctional.
ReplyDeleteHow can we know what is healthy when we've only ever experienced unhealthy? Only as an adult did I have insights into other families and by then I was conditioned to accept my fate, thinking I wasn't worthy of anything better.
I honestly wonder where I might be if I hadn't met and married my late DH who offered me unconditional love and support. He made me feel important and loved for the first time ever.
Another great post, Ruth!
Thanks Maulderfan.
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