Sunday, July 27, 2014

New Manager

I miss old email.  I've worked with computers for a long, long time.  My first email came before 2000.  Then I would get jokes, stories, and other inspirational things passed to me by friends.  Now Facebook has every thing reduced to a 2 second meme.  Email is 90% advertisement and if I try to get inspirational stuff they are trying to sell me anything and everything including a new kitchen with a sink thrown in for free.  I am going to go looking through my old saved files.  Here is one that I pulled up today. 

Thanks Nikon Sniper. 

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Are You Hiring A New Manager?
A very short form of this letter was sent to me in a mass e-mailing last week. I have altered it almost completely. I wish I could give credit to the one with the original idea that got me thinking of how to present its words in a modified way that is more in line with my own personal experience.

God’s Cover Letter

To Whom It May Concern:

I have recently heard that you have been considering the hiring of a new manager for your life. I would like to apply for the job. I believe I am the most qualified candidate. I am the only One that has ever done this job successfully. I was the first manager of human beings. In fact, I made them. So, naturally I know how humanity works and exactly how to get people back into their proper working condition. Hiring me as your manager is to have the manufacturer as your personal mechanic.

If this is your first time considering me for this position, I would just like to point out that my salary has already been paid in full by the blood of my Son, Jesus on the cross. What I need from you is the acknowledgement that the price that Jesus paid is sufficient to pay for all of your sin. I need you to believe this in your heart and to tell somebody else about your decision with your mouth. See Romans 10:9-10.

The next thing I ask from you is that you choose to give me the right to change and fix your life so that you can learn how to stay close to Me. I will be making some major changes and revisions for the better. Even though some changes may feel a bit painful along the way, I guarantee you that when you look back, you will agree that the end result is way better than anything you could imagine now. At this moment, you don’t need to worry about these changes. I just need your permission to execute these changes in My way and in My time. I will change your desires and give you the strength to make the changes. Please keep your hands out of the way.

Please don't try to help me and don't resist me. I DO know what I am doing even when you feel like you're flying in the dark. I really do need your full commitment and cooperation. If you can submit to My control the process will go smoothly and will began to happen without delays.

This is your choice! So, here I AM asking you. Will you give me the job?

I have attached a copy of my resume below if you need more convincing. Please let me know soon.

Yours Sincerely,
GOD
P.S. I created the heavens and the earth. I AM.

ATTACHED BELOW IS MY RESUME
______________________________


God’s Short Form Resume


GOD
Address: I AM everywhere. I AM beside you right now.
Phone: No dialing necessary. I have direct connect to you. Just start talking, I hear you. If you don’t know what to say … I hear your thoughts. I even hear your feelings.

EXPERIENCE
From the beginning of time to forever! In fact, I made time.

ABILITY
I AM All Powerful. I can do anything! Seriously! Anything! I can even use YOU to do incredible things for Me if you will let Me.

PRIOR EMPLOYMENT
I created the universe and the galaxies. I made man and then I formed woman from man. Cool huh?
I also made flower petals, the wings of geese, rugged mountains, and powerful rivers. I made beautiful fish that live at the bottom of the ocean that only I get to see. I made it all. I made the softness of a horse’s nose. I made the uniqueness of YOU! I established the heavens and earth by My spoken Word and I AM currently holding up the world by My power. I gave you that last breath you just took.

EDUCATION AND TRAINING
I AM and I have all knowledge.

CHARACTER REFERENCES
Here is just a few things I can do for you. I have already put these promises in writing. There are way too many to list them all here but you can find them all in the Bible.

I give wisdom! James 1:5 - If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
I give comfort! 2 Corinthians 1:3 - Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort.
I AM truth! John 8:32 - "and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
I AM the healer! 1 Peter 2:24 - He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed.
I supply strength! Philippians 4:13 - I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
I promise to forgive! 1 John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
I AM the provider! Philippians 4:19 - And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
I AM merciful! Ephesians 2:4 - But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us.
I AM good! Matthew 19:17 - And he said to him, “Why do you ask me about what is good? There is only one who is good. If you would enter life, keep the commandments.”
I give peace! Romans 14:17 - For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.

AVAILABILITY
I AM willing, ready and able to take over the management of your life. I want to put your life together again. I will bring all of who I AM into your life in order to give you love, hope and real joy … even when it’s tough to feel these things. I can start right now. I will transform your life if you let Me.

SALARY REQUIREMENTS
The fees associated for continuous work for good in your life and for your eternal security have already been paid for through the blood of My Son, Jesus. Your only responsibility is to accept that payment and then commit one day at a time to trust and obey what Jesus has done and wants to do in your life.

REFERENCES
I have millions who testify as to the great things I have done to improve their life today and their eternal futures. None of them are perfect yet … but they are allowing me to manage their lives and I am in the process of accomplishing everything I have intended for them. Even before I am finished with their changes, I AM using them to help others and to tell them about Me.

NikonSniper Steve is just one of them! Steve knew he wasn't ever going to be "good enough" to get to heaven ... but he asked Me to take control of his life a long time ago and even though you have probably witnessed many of his bumpy days … I love him and continue to work on his changes. Steve can tell you how I have changed him even though he still doesn’t understand all the “whys” for the hard things he has endured. I have some surprises for him down the road. After some very tough days, Steve is now back on track and he keeps trying move toward Me even when life is hard.

YOUR LIFE MANAGEMENT OPTIONS
This is your choice! I urge you to consider this most important choice with your whole heart. Some of you weigh the options of a new car purchase with greater consideration than your own eternal destinies. Don’t you think you should spend more time thinking about eternity and where you are headed?

If you accept me for the position of managing your life now you also receive eternal life with Me.

There are many options for life management and I know that the world is offering these options every day. Most of you are self-managed. How is that working out for you?

Truth is very narrow!

Most people today walk around thinking that they will be good enough in the end to get into heaven.

Wrong!

People that have never read the Bible think that it teaches that good little boys and girls get to go to heaven.

Wrong!

Want to get to heaven? Well, here’s the requirement!

Matthew 5:48 - You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

How are you doing with that? Not good! In fact, you are a sinner by your very nature. But way more importantly than that, you yourself personally ARE a sinner. Your words, thoughts and actions and actions condemn you every day. My standard is perfection and you aren’t making it on your own. You may think that you’re good enough. But that isn’t my standard. That’s yours! And you are wrong if you think you standard will be acceptable at the gate of heaven.

Let’s agree that it is better for you to find out these facts today and not after you can’t do anything about it.

Romans 3:23 - for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

This is a serious problem for you! You are permanently flawed and unable to get to heaven by being good. This isn’t new. I have told you this before!

Romans 3:20 - For by works of the law no human being will be justified in his sight, since through the law comes knowledge of sin.

Obeying the law was never designed to save you. The purpose of the law was in order to make you aware that you were a sinner and did not meet my standard of perfection. If there was no law, there would be no sin ... so the law had to be written so you fully understood why you could not meet the demands. I had to send you a perfect sacrifice that you have to accept.

Trying to be good has never saved anyone! Not even back in the Old Testament. Guess how they were saved in the Old Testament! Read Hebrews 11. It was by faith not the law!

Hebrews 11 verses:
v4 By faith Abel …, v5 By faith Enoch …, v7 By faith Noah …, v8 By faith Abraham …, v11 By faith Sarah …, v17 By faith Abraham …, v20 By faith Isaac …, v21 By faith Jacob …, v22 By faith Joseph …, v23 By faith Moses …, v29 By faith the people …, v31 By faith Rahab the prostitute …, v32 And what more shall I say? For time would fail me to tell of Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, of David and Samuel and the prophets - v33 who through faith …

Hebrews 11:6 - And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.
Ephesians 2:8-9 - For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

I hope you got it this time. You are trying to be good enough by your standards in order to earn heaven. This was never the plan. The world is offering you the “DO GOOD” plan. You are trying to self-manage this plan and I AM telling you it will fail. It isn’t a plan at all! You are trying to meet your own standards and I am telling you it doesn’t meet My standard of perfection.

But there is good news!

I knew there was nothing you could DO to earn perfection. You would be bound for hell if I didn’t intervene in this situation. I loved you so much that I sent you a way to be forgiven. Even when you were lost in sin, I sent you My most precious and perfect One, Jesus to sacrifice His life in your place. He paid for your sin if you will accept that payment. I sent Jesus so that you could start living life today!

I have no intention to force you to accept His Lordship in your life. I want your love! I made you so that you could really love Me. I didn’t make you a robot. You have a choice. You can accept My Son and live life to the fullest or you can really reject Him. I want REAL love from you. I want you to really choose Jesus, not just phony words that you say for show. That won’t work! And you can’t fool Me!

Romans 6:23 - For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 5:8 -but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
John 10:10 -The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.

I knew sin was too enormous for you to handle. Perfection remains My standard. If you could get to heaven by your “DO GOOD” self-management plan then you are saying that Jesus died for nothing and that you will not accept My perfect offering for you.

Galatians 2:21 - I do not nullify the grace of God, for if righteousness were through the law, then Christ died for no purpose.

In love I gave you My very best. I gave you My Son, Jesus as a sacrifice for your sins. I gave Jesus when you could not meet My standard of perfection. I made a way for you to go to heaven through Him. If you reject Him, you are telling Me that My plan doesn’t matter to you. You may wish to investigate what happened to people who rejected Me in the Bible. I AM Holy and Just. I AM going to judge the world for rejecting My Son.

So, the GOOD NEWS is very simple but it costs you control of the management of your life. You have to surrender that control to Me as an act of your will. You have to choose to give it to Me and accept My Son as payment for your sins. You really DO NOT want to test me by rejecting my Son. I gave you My best. I won’t take any fake act of surrender in return for what I AM offering you.

Romans 8:32 - He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?

There are many in the world telling you that My Son is just one of the options to get to heaven. They'll say Jesus works for you ... but ___________ works for me.

Which one of these “fill in the blanks” was perfect? Which one of these died for your sins? My standard is perfection and I have given it to you in My only Son, Jesus! There is only One Way!

Matthew 7:13 - “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many.
John 10:7 - So Jesus again said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, I am the door of the sheep.
John 10:9 - I am the door. If anyone enters by me, he will be saved and will go in and out and find pasture.
John 14:6 - Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
Acts 4:12 - And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.”
1 Timothy 2:5-6 - For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all, which is the testimony given at the proper time.
1 John 2:23 - No one who denies the Son has the Father. Whoever confesses the Son has the Father also.
Romans 5:21 - so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
1 John 5:11-12 - And this is the testimony, that God gave us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have the Son of God does not have life.
John 3:16-18 - “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.

SUMMARY
Have you spent more time considering what to watch on TV than thinking about where you will spend eternity? I urge you to earnestly pray daily, “Lord Jesus, if you are really there, please help me to find you”. I want to intervene and be the manager of your life. I want to show you the great plans I have for your life.

Matthew 7:7-8 - “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.
Revelation 3:20 - Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.

Maybe you realize these words are talking straight to you and for the first time you understand them. I urge you to invite me to take control. Pray, “Lord Jesus, I know I am a sinner. Forgive me. I know you died and rose again. I want to live for you. Please take control of my life and help me to commit daily to live for you. I accept the gift of salvation. Help me to find a church and a Bible that will teach me more about you and how I should live. In Jesus name. Amen.

If you prayed these words, find a Bible and start reading the book of John. Look for a church that meets every week and tell someone about the decision you made to make Me your personal life manager.

Romans 10:9-10 - Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved.

http://nikonsniper.blogspot.com/2012/01/are-you-hiring-new-manager.html
 

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Comparing

One of the biggest challenges I face is comparing myself with others.  My sister and I were 5 years a part yet my mother would compare us to each other.  She would point out to me how much better my sister did in school.  She pointed out to my sister how much smaller I was.  She grew in elementary school, I didn't finish growing until college...very late bloomer.  Stupid thing was that neither one of us was allowed to just be ourselves.

Today I witnessed an eleven year old get her junior black belt in Karate.  One of the other students teased me about testing for this.  (Note: I started Karate last September.)  I felt that old feeling of being inadequate without taking into account my own unique journey.  The girl started karate when she was 3.  I started when I was 56.  Actually we are not even in a similar decade.  I cheered for her when she succeeded.  I caught myself beating myself up that I would not be able to make her progress.

I am sharing my journey here and with others.  Occasionally, I encounter someone that says something like, "I had troubles in my life but nothing like yours."  Then they proceed to beat themselves up for their own lack of progress in life.  Or I sometimes hear someone beat themselves up for not doing as much as I have done.  But in contrast I haven't done some of the things they have done. 

This past year and a half I have put myself in a position of facing my fears.  Finding ways to help myself grow.  There is no need to beat myself up because I am so far behind an 11 year old black belt.  Her journey is different than my mine.  We share similar challenges but each of our journeys are uniquely our own. 

I am delighted that I was able to watch this young lady succeed.  I enjoy watching the Olympics for the same reason.  Hard work on a long journey leading them to a moment.  But what happens after the moment is over?  Do they diminish their triumph because someone else may beat their success?  Do they belittle themselves for the challenges they over came?  Do they dismiss the work they did to get where they are today?  Do I diminish my progress because I didn't go on the same journey?


I felt honored to watch her success....there is no need to beat myself up because she succeeded.  Comparison means very little most of the time.  The only person I need to compare myself to is me.  Am I in a different place then I was a year ago, five years ago, 10 years ago? There is no need to beat myself up over a set back, or a fear that still lingers, or not recognizing that all those tiny baby steps kept me moving.



Standing out alone

Blending in with the crowd


Same and different


Which home is better?

Friday, July 25, 2014

TW's request

I've had a crazy high low summer...extreme highs visiting family and riding roller coasters and extreme lows my Dad got a pace maker and my mother freaked out.  Survived it all.  I originally planned to spend many hours building my new webpage PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving.  It is my way of taking years of research and making them useful to other people.  I lived with PTSD since I was 4 years old but I didn't have a name for it until I was over 40 years old.  I spent 10 years in counseling and hours and hours of reading my own research.  I wanted to turn the ugliness in my life into something useful.  I started with this blog and I will continue to chart my personal journey here.  Thriving is an on going project with many twists and turns.  I find this space and community of readers a wonderful support for me.  PTSD webpage is consolidating what I learned into a space that hopefully others can explore and comment.  TW asked me to post a link on this blog so that my PTSD page is easier to find.  So, over on the right-hand column under the scripture is permanent link.  I also listed the blog portion of the website in My Inspiration listing of blogs that I follow also on the right-hand side.  Many things I wrote here will show up there.  I will also bring things from that webpage and share them here.  I don't know where this adventure will lead but I do believe that thriving is best when shared.  Thanks to those that are already following my other page.  I look forward to many more adventures here and there. 






Thursday, July 24, 2014

Retrain your brain

Daily Dose of Froglogic - July 21, 2014
Fear. The truth is fear is a reality in your life. It's in all of our lives. We are wired for it and have it taught to us from the beginning. It helps us to survive but can also inhibit our dreams. I believe it helps us to thrive. It's time to retrain your brain and change your behavior. If you're afraid to change you won't. If you want to....you will. Trust your team and have faith in your training to embrace your fears so that you too can make a profound impact on the world around you. OOUUUTTTTT ‪#‎EmbraceFear‬ ‪#‎Mission3‬ ‪#‎Retrainyourbrain‬ ‪#‎Froglogic‬


My sister, Judy from the Project, introduced me to Team Froglogic.  She shared his webpage and posts with me as we walked and talked.  At first I didn't explore too much.  I've been in the mode of I am up to my ears in alligators I don't have time for one more thing.  Now, I am thinking I need to listen more carefully and I figured out a way to do it.  I turn on his radio show and then use my elliptical to exercise.  I benefit from the message and keep my mind entertained while doing the most boring of work outs.  Yesterday, I listened to his information on patience.  The part that stood out for me is the idea that patience is your gut check.  That is the momentary pause between action and reaction that you hit the pause button to consider your best course of action.  He also talks frequently about building a team.  Basically, if you want to do the impossible you need a team to do it.  He also talked about having a specific swim buddy that pulls you aside with a "Hey knucklehead, what do you think you are doing?"  Wait....what?  Then I remembered two things, he's a guy and he's a Navy seal therefor understanding exactly what you need to do the impossible.  His radio show has turned to the mission of embracing your fear to use it as a tool to thrive.  Wow.....just WOW.  His approach and personality took some mental adjustments on my part but here is part of mission 2 Accepting your reality http://www.teamfroglogic.com/blog-talk-radio/1703/.  He had 4 major points:
1. It is what it is......life is what you make of it.  
2. Your not alone.
3. Find your purpose.  
4. Recruit your team because you can't do much alone.  We are designed to work together.

Yup, I got off my elliptical to take notes.  The more I listen the better I like him.  He has a positive up beat look at reality.  No sugar coating.  No pandering to the masses. Straight up "it is what it is."  Looking forward to mission 3 Retrain your brain.  

Sun reminding me it is still there. 
 

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Still bugs me


 Warning this post is a rant.....if you are in a place today that reading my rant is not helpful to you, skip this post.  Hug a friend or a pet, watch a favorite movie....storms pass, sun still shines behind the clouds.  I put the rant below the picture. 





I thought I was over feeling bugged by people doubting my version of my childhood.  I'm not.  I started seeing a new counselor, she asked me if someone believes what I was telling her.  At the time I calmly answered, "Yes, my first counselor and my sister."  There are a lot more besides that, like the 12 jurors that put him in prison, but I realized in thinking it over and over that this counselor doesn't believe me.  I was terribly depressed yesterday, and binged on chocolate last night.  Yes, if I get enough chocolate it will do a chemical magic that I actually do feel better.  I also slept on the couch with a light on and had a rough night sleep.  People don't want to believe that people exist that chose evil.  Chose to intentionally harm as many people as possible. People that want to see others surfer and revel in that suffering.  People that purposely pick children to torment because they feel bigger and stronger.  Bullies that are looking for victims not a fight.  People don't want to believe that mothers and fathers exist that set out to destroy their own offspring through their own cruelty.  Best trick of the century is the world trying to say no evil exists.  Harry Potter movie the Sorcerer's Stone portrays this with Voldermorts statement. 

Quirrell's lesson from Voldemort, as told to Harry:
"There is no good and evil, there is only power...and those too weak to seek it." 
http://www.hp-lexicon.org/wizards/voldemortsez.htm

People make excuses for abusers for example, "They didn't know they were hurting you."  "They had a hard life."  "They don't know any better." Shit, shit and more shit......yea sometimes I have done things that I didn't recognize harmed someone else.  When I realized, I apologized.  Having a hard life does not excuse poor behavior.  Every morning I wake up and can choose today how I will behave.  They don't know better because it is convenient not to learn anything else.  Filled with pride and seething with resentment shuts down the mind to where no learning can occur.  Yea, the crap in my life really happened.  Nobody can make me deny it because it is uncomfortable for them.  

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Mentally Strong People Avoid....

Anytime I see information about mentally strong people I want to know what the do and do not do to be that way.  One way to draw a picture is not drawing what is the object but drawing what isn't.  Here are some examples of using negative space in art:
http://www.creativebloq.com/art/art-negative-space-8133765

I found this article on what Mentally Strong People Avoid:
http://www.forbes.com/sites/cherylsnappconner/2013/11/18/mentally-strong-people-the-13-things-they-avoid/

I decided to try and express each of these things to avoid as what are the things mentally strong people do.

Avoid 1.    Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. There is an important difference between feeling sorry for yourself and evaluating and acknowledging what happened to you.  Feeling sorry for yourself involves an element of blaming and expectations that someone else needs to fix it.  I believe a mentally strong person reviews a situations decides what they have control over and starts there.  No time for a pity party when a plan of action needs to be put in place and implemented.

Avoid 2. Give Away Their Power.  I didn't believe I had any power to give away.  A mentally strong person knows they have power and understands that choosing to act instead of just reacting keeps their power.  As long as I am waiting around for someone else to change their behavior, I am giving away my power to the other person.  I have the power to choose and I choose not to give that away.

Avoid 3.    Shy Away from Change. Embrace change, I don't mean change for the fun of changing or jerking people around. I am talking about choosing a path and moving towards goals. When we have goals and a plan we are embracing the change of our choice.

Avoid 4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. We can not stop the world from turning. Not possible. Therefor, be willing to go with the orbit.  I can't control rush hour traffic or someone with 100 coupons in the check out line.  However, I can explore different driving routes and time them to see what works best.  I actually cut my driving time in the morning by almost 10 minutes.  I can choose to use my driving time as mental processing time.  I can get in a different line at the check out.  I can reassure the cashier that is apologizing for the slowness to lighten their day.  A mentally strong people know what they can control and what they can't.  A child throwing a screaming temper tantrum is trying to control things they can't, some people don't out grow this.

Avoid 5. Worry About Pleasing Others.   Note to self, there is a difference between choosing to do something that brings someone else pleasure and people pleasing.  Fixing my DH's favorite dinner is pleasing him because I enjoy pleasing him.  Trying to please my nasty boss was impossible simply because his displeasure was not about me.  I believe mentally strong people realize that the reaction of other people is usually about the person reacting.  Mentally strong people are confident that they are acting in a reasonable and fair manor.  They are also willing to make some adjustments but recognize that most people demanding to be pleased can't be.  A mentally strong person has healthy boundaries.

Avoid 6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks. A mentally strong person isn't fearless but they are willing to take risks.  They feel confident in their ability to handle surprise results and make adjustments in their behavior.  A fearful person doesn't do anything for fear the results will not be perfectly as they desire.  Quite off they had experience such out comes.  A mentally strong person recognizes that some things are worth the risk and know that failure is temporary.

Avoid 7. Dwell on the Past. There is a difference between learning from the past and trying to move in. The past is over. Going back there does not change it.  Part of healing is telling your story but I know people that get caught in the loop of telling their story over and over and over without learning anything from it.

Avoid 8. Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. As noted above, learn from mistakes. Try a new route.   Reassess and make a new plan.  If a mental strong person feels that deja vu of 'been here done that' they try a different solution.  Or try to find a way not to go down the same road, again.

Avoid 9. Resent Other People’s Success. This was not a struggle for me.   I was thrilled when someone esle succeeded.  I experienced several unpleasant interactions before I understood not everyone would be thrilled with my successes.  I also learned about back handed compliments.  Those pesky, "You're great but........"  Mentally strong people rejoice with you.  Besides they are busy creating their own success and don't need to lean on yours.

Avoid 10. Give Up After Failure. As noted earlier, mentally strong people know that failure is temporary.  Too many times people give up just short of when they would succeed.  My sister sent me a post by FrogLogic that encourages a person to work to their fail.  You don't know how far you can go until you push to fail.  I'm still working on this idea. 

Avoid 11. Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people are one of their own best friends. Being alone means evaluation, planning and pleasure with doing things then enjoy doing alone. There is no need to be afraid of being alone when you love yourself.

Avoid 12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Mentally strong people do not feel they are entitled to a life of ease. Their experience taught them that they are not owed anything just because they were born. Since they are not entitled they take responsibility for themselves and their own needs.

Avoid 13. Expect Immediate Results.  Expecting results yesterday only leaves frustration and disappointment in its wake.  Mentally strong people realistically estimate how long things take to do.  A one day diet does not meet a 20 lb weight loss.  Anything worth doing takes time, effort, and a good dose of patience.  I think this last one says mentally strong people are patient with others and themselves. 

Wow  awesome list of qualities.  I wonder if I can come up with one word for each of these?
1. Optimistic
2. Powerful
3. Humble
4. Flexible
5. Confident
6. Adventuresome
7. Forward thinking
8. Teachable
9. Joyful
10. Tenascious
11. Comfortable
12. Self-reliant
13. Patient.

What words would you put with this list?

A new dawn