The rant continues... I know some may be thinking, "Really, can't you get past this?" Apparently not. Over at upsi's she published TM's very clear and concise analysis of both letters. TM pointed out the attempts by "Karen" to be fair yet state her opinion. Also showed "Healing Mother" as a far less than sympathetic writer with obviously narcissistic tendencies. I was extremely impressed by what was written. Check out the link...
Thanks upsi and TM for an awesome blog post.
For the original post check out this link:
Trying to keep everyone, that wants to be, in the loop.
So what bee do I still have in my bonnet that wasn't already covered? (Please be warned this is going to be a strongly stated opinion about "Healing Mother's" vicious words minimalizing child abuse.)
This is one of the lines from the less than sympathetic "Healing Mother." (My personal opinion of this mother runs very uncomplimentary and probably considered judging but I felt her attack was vicious.)
"Sexual or physical abuse is one thing, and I am quite sure parents know if they did those things."
Really - Think for a minute how many children will be in the Emergency room tonight thanks to their parents? Or how many young boys and girls were introduced to sex or drugs by their parents. The parents will deny they did anything wrong. What land of denial is "Healing Mother" living in that she is so clueless of the epidemic levels of child abuse in every walk of life. Child abuse has no racial, economic, religious, or regional bounds. Do you really think that the woman hitting her child with a hairbrush, wooden spoon, or fist actually believe they are abusers? Do you actually believe that the man that rapes his daughter would turn himself in and saying, "Oh wow, I must have abused my daughter?" Or the sexually frustrated woman that turns to her son to teach him how to satisfy her will acknowledge she abused her own son. Child abuse is epidemic because it is being minimalized, down played, and lied about. Wake up "Healing Mother," child abuse is growing at alarming rates because people like you down play the ugly reality.
This woman just doesn't stop. She goes on to say:
"However, in this day and age the term "emotional abuse" has little meaning or credibility since everyone who has any self-doubt or some challenge to his/her self esteem now seems to believe he/she has somehow been "parentally abused or manipulated"."
I remember as a teenager going to listen to one of the POWs that came back from Vietnam. The horror stories he told of physical deprivation, but he shared that the enemy had learned that the cruelest thing they could do was to emotionally abuse the prisoners. They systematically set out to break their prisoners' spirits. Telling them nobody cared about them or were looking for them. Keeping them in boxes not tall enough to stand in and separated from each other so they had no communication. How easy it is to isolate a child and give them no positive communication. Parents that think it is funny to call their child "crabby appleton, rotten to the core" to a two year old. The first words she learns is that she is rotten to the core with nothing good in her. This from 'loving' parents. Or how about "ding-a-ling" to the child that was so sick she could barely function but since she wasn't running a temperature she must be faking it. Emotional abuse is the bloodless torture that is used sometimes by pure stupidity and ignorance but other times with all the viciousness of hellcats destroying another human being. Who would believe a child in a middle class home that she was starved because the mother wanted to save the food for the favored child? I had cancer and I was that child. If I had a choice between one of the two I would pick cancer.
What Cancer Cannot Do
Cancer is so limited...
It cannot cripple love.
It cannot shatter hope.
It cannot corrode faith.
It cannot eat away peace.
It cannot destroy confidence.
It cannot kill friendship.
It cannot shut out memories.
It cannot silence courage.
It cannot reduce eternal life.
It cannot quench the Spirit.
My feelings about Abuse
Abuse is cancer of the soul
Abuse is so destructive...
It can cripple love.
It can shatter hope.
It can corrode faith.
It can eat away peace.
It can destroy confidence.
It can kill friendship.
It can shut out memories.
It can silence courage.
It can reduce eternal life.
It can quench the Spirit.
Satan has one hell of a tool.
For all Satan's efforts, he cannot stop Christ's Atonement.
There is hope for every abused child to grow up and decide to become a chain breaker. But for some, the chances are slim that they will grow up because of the actions and abuses of their parents.