a link that filled me with joy to watch:
The miracle called birth happens before we remember. I was blessed with six of my own children. I am doubly blessed when 2 of my daughters invited me to share their children births. What an incredible experience. I am so amazed what my daughters went through. I realized I was blessed with relatively short labors. When the baby is first laid in my arms I realize I have total control over this little being. This tiny person needs me to feed, clean, and protect them from a world gone crazy. Each child began to grow rapidly. Milestones of holding their head up, rolling over, crawling, standing, toddling foot steps, and first 'mama' are celebrated and recorded. Then the terrible twos hit and this sweet beautiful child screams, "NO." That single word is the first step to a child learning their power. Some parents wisely teach a child when saying no is sometimes good, even to them. By three they want to walk themselves, dress themselves, basically tries to do everything themselves. The next years are years of rapid growth and development and separating from parents to become a fully functioning, thinking adult. The very essence of childhood is to learn to control personal power.
Not all parents are wise. Some parents feel threatened by their child that they had total control over becoming separate autonomous person. Some parents totally neglect their role in this growth process. Others try to control every aspect so 'nothing goes wrong' and raise their 'perfect' child. Neglected or engulfed are the two extremes of disasters that a parent convinces the child they have no power. Neglect because the child is thrown into situations unprepared to meet the challenges and fails repeatedly until they feel they are a failure. Engulfing the parent makes every decision for them thus convincing the child they can not make decisions for themselves. I do believe Heavenly Father intended us to become healthy autonomous thinking adults:
2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.For me and many others, we are taught at a very young age, before we even know we have it, that we have no power, love is a commodity, and we are the ones out of our minds.
I remember vividly the session when KavinCoach asked me why I kept giving my power away. I was confused and frightened, "What power have I given away? What are you talking about?" Every time I opened my mouth and said, "I have to...." I gave away my God given power to be me. KavinCoach took on the daunting task of first teaching me about this power and then encouraging me to reclaim it. The interesting thing about him was his understanding that if he gave me back my power then he was in control. If he taught me to take back my power then I was in control. I was blessed with a wise counselor that believed that God empowered us before we were born and it is our task in life to learn to control and yield that power.
|Sweet little toes|
|I am keeping an eye on you|
|Creating my own design|
|I am a powerful loving adult|