Independence day is important to celebrate. It is also a time to reflect what that means to me. I wrote my own bill of rights with the assistance of my counselor.
Working on my Bill of rights was an eye opening experience. I hadn't realized how completely my rights as a person were violated growing up. I also realized I wasn't doing too great with my own children. Controlling others is almost a given as a parent. If our children act unruly a common statement made to the parent, "Why can't you control your child?" I realized that their is a certain amount of telling children what to do. What is important that as they get older they have more and more control over their lives. Children need opportunities to make choices, make mistakes, disobey and have consequences. I am very big on natural consequences.
I'm not raising my children any more. They all grew up and moved out and now they have their own lives. My responsibility is for me to be independent and live with my spouse in an interdependent relationship. My counselor spent many sessions explaining the difference between an codependent and and interdependent relationship.
Thanks to Webster University for doing a chart that shows the difference.
Happy July 4th