Judy, my sister, posted a link to an awesome article that debunks the oft spoken phrase "God won't give you more than you can handle." https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2016/01/24/a-bit-of-inspiration-30/
The article articulates what I felt for a long time. Suffering is sent that can break you. If it won't break you, why would you need God? I expressed this before to some people and been reamed out for flying in the face of their belief. That this life should be easy.
If life is a test shouldn't it be difficult? If a broken heart is a requirement, won't things happen that will break your hear? 'If you can't stand it, try your knees' is a far more logical mantra.
I've broken. I believe that Christ had a hand in my healing. I couldn't do it without Him. I believe a loving Heavenly Father sees me differently and my experience as a refining process I barely comprehend. I am thankful for angels that walk among us. My sister is one of those angels.