Anger shows up early in life. Many a parent of a toddler can share horror stories of angry tantrums seemingly to maximize the parents embarrassment. Babies can go from googoo happy to screaming rage in split seconds. I don't believe parents set the example of laying on the floor kicking and crying. I could be wrong. Children feel anger. I am thankful to my counselor, KavinCoach, that taught me that anger is a secondary emotion. If you take the time to analyze what is zipping through your emotions hurt, fear or frustration came first. To add to the confusion, quite often it is a combination that sets off the rage. When I started counseling, my therapist seemed to be fascinated at how I could make anger vanish. Part of his therapy was to piss me off then listen to what I raged about, however, I wouldn't get mad. I would start to get angry, I would recognize the emotion, then I would make it go away. Progress was slow. Like trying to beat down a pillow wall. It gives instead of breaking. But that is how I survived. I gave instead of breaking. Sadly, I gave so much, me as a person completely vanished at times. First, my counselor taught me to allow the anger I felt. Then he slowed down my reaction to feel the emotion that came before. This took several years of work. I was persistent because what I was doing before helped me to survive but that was all I was doing, staying alive one day or 5 minutes at a time. Living is feeling emotions. Numb is not thriving, it is existing. It is not healing either. It is a living coma. I did this. Not fun. Don't wish away your ability to feel.