There's a word for that?

Word of the Day from Toastmasters
gloze (glohz):verb/noun
verb tr.: To minimize or to explain away.
verb intr.: 1. To use flattery.  2. To make an explanation. 3. To shine brightly.
noun:  1. A comment. 2. Flattery. 3. A pretense.
When the criminal (Narcissistic) was  exposed, there were some who tried to gloze his conduct.

gloze [gləʊz] Archaic

vb

1. (tr; often foll by over) to explain away; minimize the effect or importance of

2. to make explanatory notes or glosses on (a text)

3. to use flattery (on)

n

1. flattery or deceit

2. an explanatory note or gloss

3. specious or deceptive talk or action

[from Old French glosser to comment; see gloss²]

I read several posts this week all referring to the way that conflict is simply ignored by many narcissistic.  If the issue is not out right ignored then gloze is an excellent description of what they do.