I appreciate you sharing this on your blog.
I am reading through these and recognizing that I am slipping into some of these. I tend to use passive-agressive behavior when I am cornered or feel like I can't truly say what I feel. Other times it is free falling backwards into unhealthy habits of hiding from others behind an invisible barbed wire fence.
Check yourself - how are you doing?
1."Are you nuts?" I've used questions to manipulate and put down others.....how am I doing now? In my quest for truth I am trying to avoid this kind of behavior. If I disagree, then I disagree without using manipulative questions.
2. Wishing in front of someone else hoping they will get it for me. I recognize this better when someone wishes that they could get everything done with the hope I will volunteer to take some of their load. Again the truth campaign encourages me to state what I want without guilting or manipulating the other person.
3. I was raised with these. I was terrified of compliments because I was always looking for the 'kick' at the end. My counselor taught me how to give a compliment, it was part of my truth campaign, to state clearly what I appreciate or think the other person as done well.
4. Silent treatment from me may mean I never heard them in the first place. I am sometimes accused of passive-agressive ignoring of the other person. Being deaf complicates this one. Again I believe my truth campaign encourages me to say honestly, "I am not in a place that I can have this discussion right now...." True somethings I will never be in a place to discuss somethings.
5. I hadn't thought of procrastination as passive-aggressive behavior. I need to do a reality check on this one. I think mine may bounce.
6. I was left out often. I don't like it. I tend to include people that might not want to be included and feel baffled that they don't all want to be involved. I come at this one as being the one left out.
7. I've been on the receiving end of this one, repeatedly. I need to figure out how to protect myself from someone sabotaging me. Not everyone that smiles at you are your friends.
8. Keeping score and the one-up-on-you game. This is a constant battle not to slip into these. I remind myself when I give a gift it is about the pleasure of giving not hoping to get something in return. Again, my truth campaign keeps me real.
I am making progress on most of these. Some I need to look at my behavior again. Did my reality check bounce on these today?