Every school year I choose a motto to keep myself motivated to improving my self on my job. I've worked at the same school for 5 years and every year my life is different. This year my motto will be:
I can be flexible without being invisible.
When I grew up as a kid, I became so bendy and flexible that I had no backbone and no consistent identity. My goal is to cope with a constantly changing environment and stay constant with my integrity to myself. This is new territory for me. I could blend into any environment but I disappeared as an individual person. Along with my choice to be flexible, I am adding that the other person's behavior does not control my response. When needed, I will set boundaries for people that don't respect me. This is a work in progress and I am making mistakes but that is ok. I reevaluate progress, make adjustments and go again. Right now I am working in 3 and possibly 4 different programs. My day is so heavily scheduled that I am exhausted when I get home. I am looking at what I do during the day to see where the energy leaks exist....high stress environments, unreasonable expectations by myself and others, and taking on responsibilities that are not mine. I will remain flexible but hunt down and alter my thinking about my emotional drains. Some I need to change my perspective. Others I will simply accept. I remind myself that I am no longer in abusive situations. I can choose healthy ways to adjust my schedule so that I don't feel balanced.
Blessed are they flexible for they shall not be bent out of shape.
“Be gifted with wise flexibility.”