Purposefairy proposes a list of 15 things to give up:
1. Give up your need to always be rightI didn't think I had this challenge until I realized I actually stress over the slightest details that could be corrected. Working on this one.
2. Give up your need for controlCompromise is powerful when used wisely. Learning to face life as an adventure and allow it to have more of a say in my day to day living.
3. Give up on blameDoesn't work any way.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talkIf I wouldn't say those things to someone else than I shouldn't be saying them to myself.
5. Give up your limiting beliefs"Whether I believe I can or can't, I am right." I believe Henry Ford shared this. I was told can't so often, reversing that belief to a "Can do" attitude is a daily challenge
6. Give up complainingTry it for a day. Thanksgiving will be a really good day to do this.
7. Give up the luxury of criticismI believe this goes with #6. I also remind my self what critic means in art. Critic is a discussion with knowledge backing up opinion but not only negative.
8. Give up your need to impress othersNot impressing but also not competing. I can do things to my own best without worrying what someone else is doing.
9. Give up your resistance to changeSo much changed all the time. Embracing change with enthusiasm is my new challenge. However, I prefer not to change for change sake...just because it is a change doesn't automatically make it a good thing.
10. Give up labelsThe intent behind this is don't allow negative general feelings apply to a specific problem. Prejudice keeps me from recognizing opportunities and friendships where I least expect it.
11. Give up on your fearsFears are a guideline not a whip to rule me. Listening to healthy fears is desirable if I use the information to create a healthier living environment
12. Give up your excusesI learned that there are always two reasons I do something, the reason I tell people and the real one. Authenticity and truth seeking requires me to recognize my own behaviors.
13. Give up the pastNow that I learned what my past is I better understand the importance of knowing where I came from with an emphasis on FROM, USED TO BE. Accepting that I changed
14. Give up attachmentI disagree with this one. Detaching from everything also means no love, no joy, no growth. Just my opinion on this one.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectationsThis on is huge. My expectations are big enough. I don't need someone else shoulding on me.
With all my love,
Well you now have my perspective on these ideas. Giving up can improve life.