TR left a kind comment on this post....so I reread what I wrote. Thanks TR I needed to remind myself of tools I know how to use.
I am using several of the tools on the situation that presented itself.
Reminder I can't fix everything.
Each person needs to walk their own path.
I'm adding a new one....I don't have to understand to accept.
Someone else's choices doesn't mean I have to change mine.
Another reminder to self.....living in the past is hellish place to live....I can't change anything and the pain doesn't stop by revisiting old hurts. I can allow myself to move on. Moving on includes acknowledging things happened but that doesn't mean those things will control my now. I am feeling more at peace tonight.