4. I have permission to say no to events, ideas and activities that don’t nourish me.
Also 'No' is a complete sentence. Sitting at home watching a favorite show does not need to be explained. KavinCoach also taught me that if I say yes to something there is automatically something else that I am saying no to. I am learning to look for the hidden nos the ones that happen automatically because I said yes to something else. I also don't need to have my whole day so packed that I am in full race the whole day. Raising 6 kids kept our house hopping. Only have 3 things to do after work seems down right slow. A slower pace is OK. See yesterdays post....I appreciate the comment that it is OK not to be perfect.
5. I haven’t taken the best care of myself throughout the years, but self-care and self-compassion are skills I’m open to learning. I was curious by the wording of this one. Scanning through reading it quickly I didn't notice the nuance of acknowledging I didn't take care of myself in the past. Expressing a willingness to learn new skills of self-care and self-compassion. I was raised by adults that made my life about meeting their needs instead of the other way around. I was taught from the earliest of age that what I need was not important or contemptible that I would be so selfish as to need anything. Self-care is not selfish. I am open to learning how to care for myself.
6. I deserve to be treated with respect. Wow this is a biggy. My first counselor spent a lot and I mean a LOT of session time trying to teach me this one concept. I am not treated with respect by my parents. They expect me to take whatever they dish out and thank them for it. Ummmm No. I deserve to be treated with respect. I have the responsibility to walk away from those that don't . I am an adult now. If I don't respect myself, how can I expect others to respect me? Ooooooo....I think this one may need to be wrestled with some more.
7. Building a healthy relationship with myself is important because …
How would I finish this sentence? Hmmmm I am always with myself. I do know my darkest and ugliest secrets but a healthy relationship involves recognizing my virtues and strengths. Healthy relationship I believe is quite a bit different than what I am doing right now. These are far more thought provoking than I first thought when I read through them....am I having a healthy relationship with myself if I stay up late playing a mindless video game because I am trying to silence my anxiety with depression. Am I having a healthy relationship with myself when I self medicate with chocolate? The whole first 7 years of counseling was focused on building a healthy relationship with myself. My first counselor helped me tear out my entire foundation of how I used to function. I don't think I have a healthy relationship with myself yet....that is a big word yet.....it promises change, hopefully a change for the better.
8.What I appreciate about my body is …
Ugh.....I think I will tackle this one tomorrow.