My journey out of the darkness of depression.
How I changed from not just surviving but thriving.
Monday, March 23, 2015
Awfulizing vs Minimizing
Every once in a while I put a subject of a post that I plan to write later. This one has hung out in my drafts folder for a long time. I think it needs light of writing to review why I felt it was important to share this.
Awfulizing - refers to an irrational and dramatic thoughtpattern, characterized by the tendency to overestimate the potential seriousness or negative consequences of events, situations, or perceived threats.
Being pushed down the stairs is no big deal just a childish stunt. Everybody gets hurt sometime.
Both patterns of thought damage authenticity. Exaggerating or dismissing truth leads to a lessening of ones own story in life. I did both of these. I would tell my counselor my boss was mad at me so I was about to loose my job and my world would totally fall apart. No, I just pissed off my boss. Not great but not the end of the world. When I talked about what happened to me as a child I shrugged of going hungry night after night as no big deal. Yet the damage it did to me emotional was much larger than I gave it credit. My story needed to be acknowledged; not awfulizing and not minimizing. My truth belonged to me and deserved respect from me.