Change

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Exceptional Living

Are You Ready To Change Your Life?
10 Ways to Know For Sure
 

1. You’re tired.
This isn’t just a sleepy feeling when you lay down for bed at night, but an ongoing sense of tiredness throughout the day. It’s as if no matter how much sleep you actually get, your reserve energy to face the day is always low or missing.

2. You’re frustrated.
You want the feeling of unsettledness to go away so you can just “show up” and do what needs to be done. When other people don’t do their part, or prevent you from doing yours, you grow even more frustrated by the situation. You may even fail to understand why it bothers you so much.

3. You’re stressed.
Not just stressed, but over-stressed. You can be fine, doing your thing at home or work, and then something goes slightly wrong. And you find yourself going from fine to extremely stressed in an instant. This is over-stressed, when you teeter on the edge between fine and not fine.

4. You’re desperate.
You just want it to work without anything having to change. You think to yourself, “if only such and such would do this then everything would be fine.” All of your focus is placed on altering the external circumstances around you instead of the actions you could take to make things different.

5. You’re full of regret.
You have a negative internal dialogue that reminds you far too often of all the past mistakes, failures, and moments where you didn’t quite accomplish what you set out to do.

6. You’re ashamed.
You don’t want the world to really see you. You don’t challenge yourself to step out from the crowd because then they can see the failure within.

7. You’re resentful.
You just want it to be different. If only everybody else would cooperate with the plan, then the standing still plan would work. Why won’t they just do their part?

8. You’re doubtful.
Deep inside, you know that standing still isn’t the answer. You know that you have to do something, to begin listening to the whispers that well up within your heart. But you don’t think you have what it takes to change. You don’t know what the answer is for what actually needs to change.

9. You’re fearful.
You’re scared. You may fail, you may end up worse off than you are. After all, life isn’t all that bad. You’ve got good things and good people—there are happy parts. Why then are the bad parts still so overwhelming?

10. You’re looking for an escape plan.
Perhaps if you just packed up and moved to a new city. Then things would be different for you. You could start over, no one would know your past history here.

The Secret to Creating Change:

It’s not a matter of luck, location or circumstance. You’ve probably already heard it many times before. The secret to actually creating change in your life is by taking action—doing one small thing today that is different than it was yesterday. But knowing this secret only gets you so far on the path to change.

The other key to finding success in this process is about support. We are born and die alone, but we are not meant to experience life alone. The greatest gift of our human existence is that it is a journey destined to be shared with others.

We are taught from a young age to compete, to be untrusting, to be wary of the person standing next to us because we may not measure up. We are raised in a society based in perfection—never show your weaknesses, never be vulnerable.


But we are weak, vulnerable and frail—we are human. We need the ongoing support of others to lift us up when we are weak, to strengthen us when we feel frail.

Written by Stephanie Wetzel,
She is a coach, author and owner of the site, http://tradingpounds.com/

— with Ed A. Francisco, Harpreet Saini, Mandeep Saini, Anabelle Pascua Ramos, Sarab Jatt, Prerna Bhalla, Bella Lynn Love, Aerum Lanooh, Diana Lopez, Eddy Fernàndez, Yami La Quai, Violeta Ostan, Sonali Sharma, Krunoslav Stifter, Mara Conrad, Nicole Maraj-Hughes and Graciella Hizon.

 

I like the idea of starting just one thing to change.  Change happens one step at a time.  Some changes are irreversable.  You can not unsee, unhear, or delete from your mind some things.  For instance, once I understood that there are basic human rights that I have, I couldn't go back to how I thought before.  It changed my thinking which changes me.  There are several other things I would add to that you need to change determination, new information, an open mind, and as you grow in your change more tools will come to hand.  Once the change process begins it sometimes takes on a life of its own, kind of like riding a wave.  Major change can feel like you are surfing a tsunami.  Grab your board and let's go.