Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Awesome friends

I enjoy Facebook because I have awesome friends that leave notes of encouragement, delightful pictures, and funny memes.  This one really hit home tonight.

When people are not able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need to, it makes you feel uncared for. And it’s so hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection on your worth. But the truth is that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles, and anxiety that the thought of asking someone else how they’re doing doesn't even cross their mind. They aren't inherently bad or uncaring — they’re just busy and self-focused. And that’s okay. It’s not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part. It doesn't make you unlovable or invisible. It just means that those people aren't very good at looking beyond their own world. But the fact that you are — that despite the darkness you feel, you have the ability to share your love and light with others — is a strength. Your work isn't to change who you are; it’s to find people who are able to give you the connection you need. Because despite what you feel, you are not too much. You are not too sensitive or too needy. You are thoughtful and empathetic. You are compassionate and kind.

This also goes for people around me.  Sometimes when I am quiet, not communicating, and unable to connect, it is not about those around me, it is me.  I am the one retreating into my Dark Cave to try and sort out scattered and fragmented thoughts.   

I am working on the questions posted by another blogger's daughter.  Those questions are getting me to dig deep into how PTSD affects my relationship with my family.  I am pondering over these questions in a way that I have not done for quite sometime.  I am thankful that thanks to KavinCoach I am contemplating a choice between two good counselors.  Nice position to be in.  I am feeling deep gratitude for family, friends, and counselors that make my life much richer and happier place to be.  Thank you readers for sharing this journey.  

Resting for a moment

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