1. Dissociation buries anger without processing.....when you discover it again it is as fresh as when it was buried.
2. Anger is a secondary emotion.....Fear, hurt or frustration came first. Look for the source to resolve my anger.
3. When I feel anger, many times it is the warning that someone is violating my boundaries. (I'm kind of clueless to the earlier signs.)
4. Anger is affective in short term situation.
5. Some people will listen to nothing else. Reasonable tones bounce off some people. Anger is the tone that says, "YOU WILL LISTEN TO ME."
6. Anger can function like a thrumming dynamo to fuel accomplishing some tasks. (Cleaning house in a rage gets me through more work than I can accomplish without it.)
7. Anger is as destructive to me as to the person I direct it to...sometimes more so.
Anger was the avenue my first counselor used to pry out my secrets. He would say things to provoke an angry response from me. He was astounded at how completely I could dissociate so that anger vanished within seconds. I still struggle with feelings of anger. It is hard to sit with those emotions.
|Anger is brooding|
|Doesn't play well with others|