Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Web page on Child abuse

Information is available if you know where to look on the signs and symptoms of child abuse.  The hardest thing for me to accept in my counseling is understanding how severely abusive my childhood was.  I wanted the fairy tale, "We went to the park, we went to the zoo."  For years, I was told it wasn't intentional.  It was even more difficult to accept that this also was a lie.  I was devastated.  The greatest burden of all is knowing I passed on some to my children....out of not knowing how to parent, my own lack of self care, and other factors.  Generational abuse is difficult to detect when it is all you know.  I made mistakes, big ones.  Changing now sometimes feels like too little, too late.  Knowledge is the doorway to making changes in your life either healing or preventing child abuse. 

The images are disturbing or triggering for some people.  The article is fairly long.

They state that the earlier a child gets help the better off they are.  That is true, however, it is never too late to seek help.  Self care is not selfish, it is a healthy choice. 

1 comment:

TR said...

I liked the myths in the article, it was revenant to me b/c these are the ones I face with friends. They don't know of my childhood abuse but when they speak of events in the news, they use words like 'good' families and its abuse only if it is physical.

I can imagine the burden you feel when it comes to your own children. What I struggle most with is how my mother behaves TODAY as opposed to in the past. I have let go of that and if she makes any effort for taking responsibility and changing her behaviors it would change the relationship today. I think any change at any time in any relationship is important and rewarding. Hugs.