mulderfan alerted me to this article. Thanks mulderfan. I've skipped reading a lot of blog posts lately....mindless video games seem to be my escape right now. I took the time to skim through then went back and read parts of it more carefully.
I am not to keen on hair splitting.....this is exactly this way or that. However, as I read I realized she is pointing out a significant difference in motivation. Her description of kind coming from a place of plenty and sharing abundance and nice being needy driving a desire to fill an emotional need. I think this is the kind of article than can help a people pleaser (me) see why what they are doing is harmful to themselves and others. I am working at filling up my own cup without relying on pleasing others to feel good about myself. Need to sleep....I hope your enjoy the link.