What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.
My study in the books on boundaries is not smooth. I keep running into snags that keep tripping me up. My first assumption is that some how there is something wrong with me that I don't understand. Then I realize that words used by the authors don't always mean the same to me. I am drowning in vocabulary and concepts that were thoroughly twisted in my childhood. I decided to push through and finish both books this month. The challenge will be to not short circuit my progress. I am starting to grasp that I have boundaries and used them all along in between my personalities. Each one had separate responsibilities and task. Integration eliminated those boundaries. In a sense, I released all the old unhealthy boundaries; in their place I need to place new healthy boundaries between me and people that I interact with. My session today with New Counselor was me asking questions about what the author means on several key points in the book. New Counselor explained to me that I already did a lot of the work they are referring to in the book. I am going to read the section again but this time take into account all my years in counseling. I really feel like an emotional moron. Yea, someone called me that once and I am starting to see why. I don't think it was just to tick me off, I think they were expressing their frustration that I really do not understand why people do what they do. Then I think about some people, I don't want to understand.