Validation from a friend

KK

Their is a lot of emphasis put on "behavior modification" and in a lot of cases, it is the correct course for change. However, I have a saying: until you deal with the core of your being and the injuries that wrote on the slate of your soul, behavior modification is like putting "frosting on shit." Pain is a breaking of the shell. It is a sign that the physician within us wants to heal us. If those around us cannot understand that, they have a problem, not us. If you have even one close friend to "let it all out" with, you are blessed. ♥

Sometimes the one you need to tell is a counselor. Several reasons why. Once you stop paying them, they go away. They have talked to enough other people with problems you can get some idea of what doesn't work and suggestions that can really help.  Their feelings are not engaged with you personally so they can give you the benefit of a different perspective.  I depend heavily on that difference.  If what I was doing was working then I wouldn't need to consider a change. 

In light of what I have decided to do, this was validation that there is something rotten I still need to extract or deactivate from my past.  As much as I would LOVE to leave my past in my past it still interfers with my life now.  Like plunging through a monster size spider web bits and pieces tend to cling.  I enjoyed the drawing my counselor did of a can of worms.  We talked about how much I have already cleaned out.  I am beginning to believe that some of the squiggly things left are leaches not worms.  They can suck the life right out of me.  I am hoping that shining light on them they will wither away and die into my past where they belong.