I am reposting my list.....I highly recommend making your own Bill of Rights.
I have the right...
My list was adapted from the list in this book Men Who Hate Women & The Women Who Love Them
Written in January 2010
I have the right to be treated with respect.
I have the right to chose not to take responsibility for anyone else's problems or bad behavior.
I have the right to feel emotions - anger, excitement, sad, glad, afraid, courageous, etc. and the responsibility to accept the consequences of any actions brought about by those emotions.
I have the right to say no. When I say "yes" to one thing I inherently often have to say "yes or no" to something else that is not always obvious.
I have the right to make mistakes and the responsibility to take the consequences for those mistakes.
I have the right to my opinions and convictions. Just because I have them does not mean I should always state them. Sometimes the best reply is silence but I need to keep in mind that with some people silence means agreement. The art of disagreeing without being disagreeable is on going training.
I have the right to determine when someone is yelling at me or not. I am aware that I am hypersensitive to negative reactions but if I feel someone is yelling at me I will respond that way.
I have the right to change my mind and the responsibility to take the consequences.
I have the right to ask for emotional support or help. I have the responsibility to work on things myself. Learned helplessness is as unhealthy as never reaching out to anyone.
I have the right to negotiate for change. The responsibility to express myself to the other person. The other person can not read my mind.
I have the right to protest what I believe to be unfair treatment or criticism. Being defensive can sometimes make a situation worse. In protesting unfair treatment I need to keep in mind who I am talking to. Some people are not healthy enough to engage in this type of conversation. In these situations, I have the right to walk away.
I have the right to have friends. I have the responsibility to recognize that friends take time and energy which I have a limited supply.
I have the right to ignore advice. I have the responsibility to take the consequences of ignoring that advice. I recognize that the source should be considered when I am considering someone else's advice.
I have the right to take breaks that can be beneficial when working on large projects.
I have the right to throw away or give away things that I no longer want or need.
I have the right to lock the doors or not lock them depending on how I feel at the time.
I have the right to have extra food in the house.
I can add to this list when ever I feel the need.
We build fences around property we own. Emotional boundaries are built around the emotions we own. I struggled with boundaries when I put my emotions in a box. Recognizing what I want to protect makes setting boundaries a natural progression to protecting my rights as a human being.