At first, I didn't understand how time could be a boundary. Then I thought about Chopped, a popular Food network show with bizarre ingredients and time limits. Time becomes a boundary at work when you are allotted a certain amount of time to accomplish a task. Interestingly enough Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend explained that young adults need a certain amount of time away from their parents to establish their own traditions and boundaries. Sometimes the time away from a project can give you perspective that you need to move forward with the project. Time away from a person or a group may realign your boundaries to match your priorities instead of theirs. Time away, a break, a vacation, short or long, close or away, the boundary of time plays an essential role for anyone needing to become their own best friend. I encouraged my own children to move out and live on their own before getting married. I am not 100% sure it was the brightest idea I had but it was something that I didn't do. Parents are like that. Sometimes they encourage their kids to do something they wished that they had done themselves. I have taken breaks from projects. I have noticed that my perspective changes. Sometimes I realize it wasn't what I wanted to do in the first place. The one person I can never take a break from is me. I am with me all the time. Before integrating I was able to take breaks from myself. I don't miss doing that. I am very happy to be all together, even when I am very stressed. I do sneak away at family dinners to play with the grand kids but I figure that one is a win-win proposition. Where do you like to take a break?
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| I love going to the park. |
3 comments:
I was one of those people who had to be doing something ALL the time! Reading a book didn't cut it so it books got devoured, without pleasure, in record time. Maybe it goes back to my period of "slavery" where I had chores, babysitting, school and, even though no social life was allowed, I never had any free time.
It's taken me quite a number of years in retirement to realize it's OK to just take the time to "be". I nap, read, potter in my garden, hang out with pups, meet friends for lunch and am finally letting go of the feeling I must "accomplish" something every single day.
Time is now my friend and not my enemy!
Screw dear daddy, who told me in our final conversation I had wasted my life! Even if I had, it was my time to waste!
L.A.
One person's waste is another person's pleasure. Thanks for a great comment mulderfan.
Yea Laurel. :)
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